Depression Does Not Define You

He (Jesus) took Peter and the two sons of Zebedee along with him, and he began to be sorrowful and troubled. He told them, "My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me." Matthew 26:37-38

This scripture means more to me today than at any other time. To know that my Lord and Savior experienced depression comforts me in that He truly understands what it feels like to suffer from anxiety, despair, discouragement, and disappointment. Although Jesus's circumstances were far more profound, we can take great comfort knowing He is genuinely acquainted with our infirmities.

No one truly understands what that place of emptiness feels like unless they have experienced it. But take hope; you are not alone. So many people believe the lie that no one understands or that they are too far gone to be helped, but that can't be further from the truth. The key to experiencing freedom is finding a safe person to share your pain with. The key word here is SAFE.

Not Everyone is Safe

Over the years, I have learned that not everyone is safe or mature enough to handle the intensity of circumstances. Some do not know how to listen and respond appropriately. Others are damaged themselves and only add fuel to the fire. Then some are predatory and will take advantage of the situation. I have experienced all of these situations, and I can tell you that they led to further pain and isolation.

Scripture tells us, "To guard our heart with all diligence for from it flows the springs of life" (Proverbs 4:23) BSB. The NLT "...for it determines the course of your life."

How to Select the Right Person

The first thing is to pray. Ask God to show you who He wants you to confide in. This person must be spiritually mature in their faith and a person you can confide in without fear of judgment. A person who is unbiased, objective, and will be there for you in your time of need.

Be selective and discerning. I would also highly recommend selecting someone stable who can help you overcome during this season of your life.

Over the last few years, I have understood that transformation can be achieved through transparency and vulnerability. It takes work and trust, but with the help of trustworthy people in my life, I have experienced victory.